Posts Tagged ‘wife’
Posted by Dirck on 20 October, 2016
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Posted by Dirck on 13 October, 2016
* Yes, we celebrate that in early October here. Remember that it’s a harvest festival, not a saint’s day.
** The reason we use pens before selling them on– this one has needed several little tweaks to get the tine alignment just so, which little bits of scribbling hadn’t revealed. Prolonged writing, however… well, I’d have been embarrassed to have sold it earlier.
Posted by Dirck on 19 August, 2016
I believe I’ve mentioned that there is a fairly rural bent to the rhythms of my home province, which is generally a good way of remembering where food comes from, although there is a price to be paid in pick-up trucks and country music. We hear much of crop projections (good year for wheat, you market speculators), and how well things have grown.
All of which is very, very tangential in its connection to this:
Happily, my wife is in favour of a fuzzy fella.
Posted by Dirck on 26 May, 2016
This week brought another rejection which encourages– it’s amazing how some kind, non-pro forma words cushion such blows.
* I’m slowly working this into shape thanks to discovery a couple of months ago of Twine as a means of formatting that sort of a story (as with most discoveries, it was there long before I found it). It’s still a back-burner exercise, the thing I do on weekends (or Victoria Days, as in the instant case) when I have a little free time and I don’t have the current front-burner story at hand. I also don’t keep careful track of how much gets done at a sitting At the current pace, and with the estimated 60,000 words the whole thing runs to, I should be done it by 2019.
** 23 May was also my anniversary, so I was treating myself. I treated my wife to a pleasant sushi restaurant excursion, where we enjoyed raw fish like the freaks we are, and we were both given a subsidiary gift of our son’s willingness to cram salmon nigiri into his head without hesitation. He’s not not picky, but he’s kind of specific in his pickiness, and we’re quite proud to be the European-descended parents of a kid born only 500km from the geographical centre of North America who took willingly to various sorts of Asian cuisine (and peas!).
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Posted by Dirck on 1 March, 2016
Last night, just after supper, I took my son’s boots to the basement to apply some commercial rubbery shoe sealant to them, because they were developing cracks between sole and upper, and it’s too damn late in the season to go and buy a new pair that absolutely won’t fit next October. This is done in the basement, because the volatile compounds of the sealant agitate my wife’s asthma. Since I make a trip into the basement each morning to do the day’s initial examination of the internet, it would be no big deal to bring the by-then stench-free boots up with me and set them, as will a good Japanese host, ready for my son to slip into and step out the door for his school day.
Unfortunately, I had Mr. Migraine yelling in my ears (or, in truth, eyes) this morning, and forgot all about that plan until about five and a half hours after son’s school departure time.
At this point, I called to apologize to my wife. She dismissed this as unnecessary. She had, shortly before departure time, found a thing that needed to be taken downstairs and put right beside the place the boots sat; there was no real effect on the course of her day from my error, and she told me as much.
And there’s your happy marriage in action. Mistakes admitted and dismissed as trivial. I think I’ve mentioned in the past that the extent of our “fights” is generally along the lines of “No, you take the remote. I don’t want it,” and today’s event is a branch of the same root that produces those set-tos. We do not strive for mastery over the other. We each treat the other as an equal partner in the household.
What I find amazing is that this strikes some people as remarkable.
PS– since I’m making noise now, I won’t wait until the Thursday progress report to mention that there’s a new story on the fiction front. My wife, who is somewhat biased, says it’s her favourite thing there thus far.
Posted by Dirck on 24 December, 2015
Well, here we are at Scrooge Startling Day, hopefully all glowing with the anticipation of a happy tomorrow spent in the bosom of a family of however much extension one can manage. I certainly am; for the past ten years, there have been three generations at my parent’s place, and for the past seven the same has been true at my in-laws, and we are as non-strife-seeking a pair of families as can well be imagined.
This year, there is a confusion in our plans, because in an act of what should be unnecessary charity, we will be bringing an outsider into the proceedings at both grand-parental abodes. It’s the sort of thing that ought to get Dickens’s various haunts stirring their stumps, too, because the reason we are doing this is rather scandalous.
Our friend has had what I can only call a dismal year. The financial problems which I occasionally touch on in my own case are the proverbial copes of lead in her case. Single, she is not eligible for any of the provincial low income supplement programs; these are limited to low income families (I’ll mention that I am technically able to apply for at least one of these, but due to the gross household income being enough the adults present to be above the poverty line, it would be about $30/month at a cost of many hours/month of dealing with bureaucracy; it’s not exactly an open-handed set of programs). She is working several part-time jobs in keeping with the current notions of employment, the combined income of which almost covers her rent… in a good month. Because of the increased workload at the one retail job she has, the main and most regular employment, she finds her hours cut to a maximum of two hours per week, to make room for a load of temporary minimum-wage workers– rise up, o rise, you Dickensian spectres!
We add to this litany of financial woe her mother tipping into full dementia. This landed her in a public care home (the lickpenny provincial government has not quite unwound the socialist works of the 1950s through 1970s so far as to do away with these institutions), where she may if in a state of relative coherence receive brief visits. Thus, the friend’s traditional Christmas of spending the day with mom becomes impossible. Her father, long estranged from mom, and his family live about 2,500 kilometres away, a distance she cannot pay to travel even if she were disinclined to spend whatever of tomorrow as she can with mom.
The most deeply scandalous element of this: there is other family here, diverse maternal aunts and uncles and their progeny. Many of these people have money in excess of basic need, and a couple we might even call well-off. They have decided to get together for Christmas… elsewhere. Only a few hours drive away. Friend was not invited. I don’t know, and can’t gather the heart to ask, whether this is a stems from her being born as the result of a fling and never legitimized, if it’s just because she’s from the poor wing of the family and we don’t want their kind at our quasi-posh gathering, or if it is down to her father being black and they not. I suppose one could imagine a smorgasbord of -isms at work and allow all of the above reasons to have some influence in the affair, life being the rich tapestry that it is. She can’t just turn up where they are and see if they stand by the exclusion, because she’s too poor to have a car; this would otherwise be what I would urge, because then they’d have to actively tell her to go away rather than just passively neglect her, and that might actually activate some consciences.
Thus, my own Christmas travels grow some curlicues, which I italicize in this roster of waypoints:
- Take wife and son to her parents’ house;
- After collecting friend;
- Enjoy a morning at the in-laws (an unironic phrase);
- Deposit friend at the care home;
- Enjoy afternoon at my parents’ place;
- Then collect friend from care home, unless her visit extends beyond…;
- The devouring of the traditional Christmas Roast Beast;
- Which would then see friend collected to be fed left-overs;
- …and home for my merry little family to settle gifts in the house* and loll in post-prandial torpor;
- …possibly with friend who would then need to be taken home later.
The selfish brute in me grumbles at the inconvenience of all this to-and-fro. However, I quell that beast with a mental image of friend stuck in her over-priced apartment, casting glances alternately at the snowy terrain beyond the window, a picture of her and mom in a better time, and the cat toys she hasn’t cleared away after the death of her pet at the end of spring (a hard year indeed). If she didn’t get suicidal from that, I would from imagining it, and my parents’ new digs offer a fifteenth floor balcony as a temptation to the despondent.
Grim jesting aside, how could one avoid the torments of the Spirit of Christmas Past for all the years to come if one left someone in a lurch like that? Whatever one’s faith, this season is about enhancing the quantum of joy and human fellowship, and happily all the families involved agree with this sentiment*. So, as you sit down to your own Christmas dinner, be it Roast Beast or Who Hash, spare a moment of reflection about your power to enhance the lives of others. It is, really, the whole point of being here.
Now, if that hasn’t put you in too blue a mood, and you’re interested in the old English tradition of being gently frightened at Christmas**, here’s Annie Lennox out caroling:
…and to finish with a grin– the same tune, slightly altered.
* My father, who as I have mentioned before spent his formative years in an only intermittently exciting zone of one of the most destructive wars in the whole of history, suggested about a month ago that money that might be spent on adult gifts be given instead to the organizations smoothing the arrival of Syrian refugees in this country. Gifts for the kids remain, because their lives are among the ones we all mean to enhance, but we are carrying the principle of mankind as our business unusually far this year.
** In a similar vein– here’s the latest on the fiction side of things, that wee flash I mentioned a couple of progress reports back.
Posted by Dirck on 7 August, 2015
My son is growing up, as is the usual and hoped-for development. No longer is his entire world absorbed by the adventures of an ever-growing crowd of locomotives on a fictional neighbour of the Isle of Man. No, that has faded to a mere 86.3% of his willing attention. He now devotes a little of his mind to other pastimes, one of the more absorbing of which is Minecraft.
Yes, it’s not a great idea to let a 7-year-old apply many waking hours to a videogame. This one at least has a creative element to it. Heck, he’s built the entire cast of Peep and the Big Wide World out of non-existent blocks (which are rather easier to clean up than the Lego Dinosaur Train my wife was press-ganged into building last week), and that’s a step in the direction of graphic arts, a fine hobby and sometimes a rewarding career.
Minecraft also provides whimsy which the boys parents appreciate, such as this:
And if a song is going to get stuck in you head through the efforts of a child, I’m just as happy that it’s this one which spun off of the Minecraft fascination:
Oh, don’t look at me like that. I used the phrase “stuck in your head.” If you clicked on it after that much warning, then you’ve had a valuable lesson at less cost than might have been.
Today’s pen:Pilot Vanishing Point
Today’s ink: Pilot black
Posted by Dirck on 24 December, 2014
But first, to please the Watching Conscience:
…and that’s the last of that you’ll see until the new year. I’m taking some time off from The Regular Job, and while I entertain notions of getting as much writing done at home as I do here, they’re only slightly less unrealistic than the notions I have of establishing a resort on the Moon. There is, after all, a six-year-old who is extremely demonstrative of affection, very anxious to share cool stuff, and by noon Thursday in a frenzy of Christmas-induced glee. There is already much whispering to parents and pointing suggestively at a drawer we don’t know he’s hidden a gift to his Mom in.
Plus I’m the behindest I’ve ever managed on correspondence.
In any event, since doing anything with this is pretty much a work-day event, and the next work-day is 5 January, it’s apt to be very quiet here until then. I hope you’re all keeping on the right side of too much fat, calories, alcohol and other seasonal indulgences (“right side” being highly subjective, of course). As the clock ticks down to the recurrent rehabilitation of Alistair Sim, I thought the thing to throw up on the Lifted Video Service would be the thing I’ve been using to drown out the Country and/or Western station that’s being allowed to make noise elsewhere in the office. It’s made the day go much more easily for me.
For those who find Baroque warbling a rather more egg than their nog can support, there is also a reading of Dickens’s famous seasonal work by a chap whose name you may recognize (although it may be having a little bandwidth trouble). Merry, Jolly, Happy, Cheerful or Reflective Roughly-Solstice Event to all, and we’ll see you all in the painfully science-fictioney year of 2015.
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Posted by Dirck on 26 November, 2014
A mere stub today, only to get down an observation while I remember it.
Yesterday, as I hooted about on Friday instant, I went to a movie premiere. Because it was a ballyhoo’d red carpet thing, I dressed up a little extra, and out of it I make this discovery: cuff-links are an excellent training aid for those intent on not resting arm on desk while writing.
While I’m at it, I should recommend the film, at least for those who enjoyed the TV show. This is not simply based on my wife’s amazing turn as Denizen Della (she has lines! More than one!), but because it’s a well-made example of Canadian humour and an opportunity to see the amazingly regular horizons of my home territory. It’s also not going to be in theatres very long, probably because it’s a well-made example of Canadian humour; limited power to bust blocks, and very little in the way of CGI anything.
Posted by Dirck on 21 November, 2014
This is quite afield from my usual line– this Tuesday upcoming I’m going to be attending the sort of event described above. I do this through my wife’s involvement the film trailered below:
This is pretty cool, as she says the people involved are extremely nice and I don’t often get to see her in her professional environment. I should say the people involved must be nice, as in the following…
…they don’t once mention the gutting of that professional environment in this province. But that’s grumpy talk, and I’m very happy that she got to work on a film, and has avoided the fell Curse of The Editor. She doesn’t have a lot of lines, and it was a worry.